Psychotherapy · Coaching · Supervision
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist #79783 serving all of California online and offering in-person sessions in North Berkeley, close to:
Berkeley · El Cerrito · Oakland · Albany · Claremont · Emeryville · Kensington · Richmond · Marin · Silicon Valley · San Francisco
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"No problem can be solved by the same level of consciousness that created it." -Albert Einstein
Helping You Get Unstuck
Are you feeling disconnected from your values, dreams and vitality? Have you drifted away from living as the person you actually want to be, and are unsure how to get back? Are you certain you know who you are amidst the influence of family, friends, technology-mediated experience, and popular culture?
Many people in our culture suffer silently from a lack of soul, which often leaves life lacking meaning and purpose. Therapy helps you reconnect with your deeper nature and build an authentic, solid, enduring sense of yourself – one that withstands the influence of outside forces and relationships. Reconnecting with this deeper and more authentic self – your dreams, your unexplored or neglected passions, the disowned parts of your psyche – can lead to a profound new way of being in the world.
Helping Women Develop Healthy Relationships
• Are you looking to shift out of unhealthy or frustrating relationship patterns?
• Do you find yourself attracted to unavailable, immature, or damaging men?
• Have you had a history of relationships with men that have left you feeling unsafe?
• Do you have trouble feeling heard in relationships?
• Would you like to explore your inner masculine?
Working from feminist principles and incorporating a deep understanding of gender socialization, I can help you explore and overcome your negative patterns in dating, sex and romance. I focus on helping develop your sense of power and ability to set limits, and guide you in working through fears that may be stopping you from having healthy, committed relationships. How I help:
I help you feel stronger on your own so you can choose relationships more wisely.
I help empower you to make better decisions in relationships and get the support you deserve.
I help you appreciate your unique gifts and learn how to offer them to others.
I help you get in touch with your own power and ask for what you need.
"Only by learning to live in harmony with your contradictions can you keep it all afloat." -Audre Lorde
If your sexual identity, sexual orientation or gender identity does not conform to mainstream societal expectations, the world can often feel unsafe. The mental health profession has a shameful history of pathologizing and discriminating against members of this community. It is important that, when you begin the process of seeing a therapist, you feel 100% safe as an LGBTQIQ person.
Many therapists claim to "specialize" in LGBTQIQ issues simply because they are open-minded. While well-intentioned, most of these therapists are not equipped with the knowledge or skill to work with the complex and layered issues faced by our community. I have walked the path of being a queer person, and I also have specialized training and extensive experience working with the wonderfully diverse LGBTQIQ community. This training has focused on issues specific to folks who identify as Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Queer, Questioning, Genderqueer, Gender fluid, Transgender, Transsexual, Cross-dressing, Kink, BDSM, Sexually Fluid, Polyamorous, HIV+, Gay Adoptive Parents, and part of Step & Blended Families.
I also work with family members of the LGBTQ community who are having difficulties accepting a loved one who has recently come out.
Helping Gay Men Find Balance
• Are you a gay man searching for an intimate
• Are you struggling to accept your sexual orientation?
• Do you feel unsatisfied by what the gay community has
• Do you feel lonely but aren't sure why?
• Are you wondering how to cultivate deeper connections
with other gay men?
If you identify as a gay man, you are living in a mainstream culture that ignores or rejects the unique gifts of your identity. Gay male culture can also, in its own way, be harsh, superficial, or unaccepting. You may long for supportive community, intimate connection with others, and a more joyful way of life - but aren't sure where to begin looking for it. My graduate research focused on the difficulties many gay men face in finding stable, intimate, lasting relationships - and how psychotherapy can help with this. How I help:
I help you develop a healthier relationship to sex.
I help you beat back the inner critic.
I help you explore and accept your sexuality.
I help you develop stronger connection to others.
I help you find your OWN gay community.
I help you work through fears of intimacy.
Gender Identity and Transgender Issues
If you identify as transgender, genderqueer, nonbinary, or somewhere else on the spectrum of gender—or if you are simply questioning your sense of self around gender, or experience body or gender dysphoria—you may feel like you have to hide parts of your identity or endlessly explain it to various people in your life. Or you may feel like there's no one to turn to with whom it will feel safe to discuss your experience.
I offer informed, affirming and social-justice oriented psychotherapy to clients across the gender spectrum to help them live with more clarity, support and congruence. This often involves providing assessments and support letters for hormone therapy, chest surgeries, sex reassignment surgeries, and workplace, school or residential issues.
Affirmative Therapy for Nonmonogamy & Polyamory
Relationships can thrive in many diverse constellations, including those that are non-normative or carry stigma in our culture. Even as the country makes major advances in gay rights, those who practice nonmonogamy or polyamory often face judgment and incomprehension - even by therapists!
I offer informed, affirmative psychotherapy for those living or exploring these relationship styles, and am connected to community resources that can offer additional support.
Are you tired, angry, or disengaged from your job or relationships? Are you having trouble communicating with your partner? Are you feeling lost and aren't sure how to get your life back on track? Do you struggle with inner conflicts that you don't feel you can tell others about?
When you feel you can no longer solve your own problems, reaching out for help is a sign of strength. Our culture continues to change in ways that can leave many men less certain about the value of their masculinity, and without models for exploring their inner life. You may feel isolated, unable or reluctant to express what you are feeling to others for fear of ridicule or rejection. Psychotherapy offers a confidential space for exploring what's beneath the surface.
How I help: I offer straightforward consultation that helps you learn the skills necessary to improve your mood, energy levels, relationships, and self-esteem.