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Are you noticing problematic thoughts, feelings or behaviors that you can't understand or get rid of? Do you feel like you're sinking? Are you feeling disconnected from your values, dreams and vitality? Have you drifted away from living as the person you actually want to be, and are unsure how to get back? Or maybe you've never known who YOU really are amidst the expectations placed on you by your family, friends, the mass market, and popular culture. This sense of disconnect can sap your life of energy, purpose and joy. It's painful, but it doesn't have to be this way. I know through personal and professional experience that real change is possible, and that therapy can help.
Many people in our culture suffer silently from a lack of soul, which often leaves life seeming like it lacks meaning or purpose. I can help you reconnect with your deeper nature and build an authentic, solid, enduring sense of yourself - one that withstands the influence of outside forces and relationships. Reconnecting with this deeper and more authentic self – your dreams, your unexplored or neglected passions, the disowned parts of your psyche – can lead to a profound new way of being in the world.
• Are you looking to shift out of unhealthy or frustrating relationship patterns?
• Do you find yourself attracted to unavailable, immature, or damaging men?
• Have you had a history of relationships with men that have left you feeling unsafe?
• Do you have trouble feeling heard in relationships?
• Would you like to explore your inner masculine?
Working from feminist principles and incorporating a deep understanding of gender socialization, I can help you explore and overcome your negative patterns in dating, sex and romance. I focus on helping develop your sense of power and ability to set limits, and guide you in working through fears that may be stopping you from having healthy, committed relationships. How I help:
I help you feel stronger on your own so you can choose relationships more wisely.
I help empower you to make better decisions in relationships and get the support you deserve.
I help you appreciate your unique gifts and learn how to offer them to others.
I help you get in touch with your own power and ask for what you need.
When horrible or overwhelming events happen to us - whether once or over a long period of time - our brains and bodies will often respond in ways that protect us from fully, consciously experiencing those events in the moment. While this protective mechanism is useful, it also can cause problems afterwards.
You may find yourself overly agitated or inexplicably depressed; you may react strangely to certain sights, sounds or smells; you may suffer from nightmares or sleep trouble; you may have unpleasant flashbacks or intrusive thoughts. These are just some of the symptoms that can emerge after a truamatic event.
How I help: I use a highly effective, biology-based method of healing trauma that helps you learn how to regulate your nervous system and release the trauma using your body's natural rhythms.
If your sexual identity, sexual orientation or gender identity does not conform to mainstream societal expectations, the world can often feel unsafe. The mental health profession has a shameful history of pathologizing and discriminating against members of this community. It is important that, when you begin the process of seeing a therapist, you feel 100% safe as an LGBTQIQ person.
Many therapists claim to "specialize" in LGBTQIQ issues simply because they are open-minded. While well-intentioned, most of these therapists are not equipped with the knowledge or skill to work with the complex and layered issues faced by our community. I have walked the path of being a queer person, and I also have specialized training and extensive experience working with the wonderfully diverse LGBTQIQ community. This training has focused on issues specific to folks who identify as Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Queer, Questioning, Genderqueer, Gender fluid, Transgender, Transsexual, Cross-dressing, Kink, BDSM, Sexually Fluid, Polyamorous, HIV+, Gay Adoptive Parents, and part of Step & Blended Families.
I also work with family members of the LGBTQ community who are having difficulties accepting a loved one who has recently come out.
• Are you a gay man searching for an intimate relationship?
• Do you feel unsatisfied by what the gay community has to offer?
• Do you feel lonely but aren't sure why?
• Are you wondering how to cultivate deeper connections with other gay men?
If you identify as a gay man, you are living in a mainstream culture that ignores or rejects the unique gifts of your identity. Gay male culture can also, in its own way, be harsh, superficial, or unaccepting. You may long for supportive community, intimate connection with others, and a more joyful way of life - but aren't sure where to begin looking for it. My graduate research focused on the difficulties many gay men face in finding stable, intimate, lasting relationships - and how psychotherapy can help with this. How I help:
I help you develop a healthier relationship to sex.
I help you beat back the inner critic.
I help you feel calmer and more confident in social situations.
I help you develop stronger connection to others.
I help you find your OWN gay community.
I help you work through fears of intimacy.
Adolescence and early adulthood is typically a time when we choose and develop who we want to be—and struggle deeply with those parts of ourselves we dislike. For Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender and Questioning (LGBTQQ) youth, this process is often intensified by the shame, social stigma and rejection (or misunderstanding) signaled by loved ones and by society more broadly. In High School especially, one must navigate l a system of “in” groups and “out” groups, social cliques, and inflexible categories. I specialize in helping LGBTQQ youth sort out who they are amidst this confusion, and begin to learn how to author their own lives and identities. How I help:
I help you feel better about your life and cope with hard feelings.
I help you explore who you really are.
I help you express yourself in safe ways.
I help you feel understood.
“If you don't have any shadows, you're not in the light.”
Relationships can thrive in many diverse constellations, including those that are non-normative or carry stigma in our culture. Even as the country makes major advances in gay rights, those who are polyamorous or part of the kink/BDSM communities often face judgment and incomprehension - even by therapists!
I offer informed, affirmative psychotherapy for those living or exploring these lifestyles, and am connected to community resources that can offer additional support.
Are you tired, angry, or disengaged from your job or relationships? Are you having trouble communicating with your partner? Are you feeling lost and aren't sure how to get your life back on track? Do you struggle with inner conflicts that you don't feel you can tell others about?
When you feel you can no longer solve your own problems, reaching out for help is a sign of strength. Our culture continues to change in ways that can leave many men less certain about the value of their masculinity, and without models for exploring their inner life. You may feel isolated, unable or reluctant to express what you are feeling to others for fear of ridicule or rejection. Psychotherapy offers a confidential space for exploring what's beneath the surface.
How I help: I offer straightforward consultation that helps you learn the skills necessary to improve your mood, energy levels, relationships, and self-esteem.
To schedule a free initial consultation at my office, call 510.740.8024 or